what we should be telling ourselves every day.
I think almost any mother would agree with me when I say, being a mother is some serious hard work. Yes, it truly is the greatest gig ever, beyond measure, but it is also incredibly challenging, exhausting, and really, really overwhelming sometimes. Lately for me, it has been all of the above and then some. And because of that weight, I am constantly feeling as though I am not enough as mother or even a wife. I have been questioning and doubting myself and parenting choices.
“I’m a failure.” “I am not doing it perfectly.” “I’m ruining my daughter.” “I can’t stop worrying.” “What if…” “Why can’t I be more like…”
These messages that replay in my mommy mind are anything but positive, but they are so hard to ignore. And yet I dwell on them and allow them to consume me. Without even realizing it, my thoughts are filled with self-criticism. I am constantly comparing myself and situation to others. Always focusing on what I have done wrong or how I have messed up.
Unfortunately, I know I am not alone. I know that hundreds and thousands of other mothers out there have the same thoughts swirling through their minds. And why? Is it because we don’t hear enough positive feedback from our friends and family? Is it because of the constant comparison?
A NEW FOCUS.
It’s time we break this pattern of negative thinking. And remind ourselves of who we are. Not just a mother, but as wife, friend and person. Affirmations are statements about you, your character, or your abilities. They can be true, even if they don’t always feel true (or even if you make mistakes like me.)
Sometimes I feel like I am setting myself up for failure, creating lies in my mind that are not even true. In an essence I am literally “brainwashing” myself. What messages are replaying over in your mind as you lay in bed at night? Are they positive and truthful or are they exaggerated fabrications and fears?
After letting negative thought after negative thought in, I decided that I needed to do something about it before I let it control me. I needed to do some positive brainwashing for a change. I think it is so important that we remind ourselves daily why it is that we do what we do. And constantly remind ourselves that what we are doing is not only about loving our children…but loving ourselves, as well.
THE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS TO GET YOU STARTED.
I have compiled a list of some positive affirmations that I think are SO important. I want all you mommas out there and not mommas to pick one, five or 10 that you repeat each day, or choose a few that you really need to focus on right now. Write them on your bathroom mirror, put them in your notes on your phone, set a reminder before bedtime. Repeat them as often as you would like! Changing our thought patterns can be difficult, but they are not impossible. When you hear yourself going back to the old negative, untrue or false statements, counter those thoughts by repeating your favorite affirmations.
With time, affirmations will feel less like work, and more like a true expression of who you are as a mom. And when it feels right, go give these encouraging words to other mothers. Because what it all boils down to, is that this world and everyone in it could use a little bit more encouragement, kind words and lot more love.
- I am a good mother.
- I am a strong woman.
- I am patient and kind.
- I am understanding.
- I am forgiving.
- I am loved.
- I am beautiful, I am confident, I am perfect as is.
- I am happy.
- I am a blessing to my family.
- I am encouraging.
- I trust myself and my actions.
- I am prayerful.
- I am someone’s comfort.
- I am calm and peaceful.
- I am focused and driven.
- I am important.
- I love myself. Loving myself first allows me to be available to fully love others.
- I am respectful and honest.
- I am nurturing.
- I am doing my absolute best.
- I am a good wife.
- I am trustworthy.
- I make a difference.
- I am consistent.
- I am gracious.
- I am joyful.
- I am playful and make my children laugh.
- I am hardworking.
- I am inspiring to so many others.
- I am the ultimate listener.
- I am slow to judge.
- I am the perfect mother for my children.
Remember, you truly are one kick-ass, amazing person! I hope this helps anyone out there who needed some positive affirmations in their life!
x o x o . andrea. the ranch mama.